Its Just Life

The Evil Eye is Real.

Swathy · April 1, 2025 · Leave a Comment

Just the other day, a thought popped into my head — “Life is good lately. No problems.”

And, voila, the next day hell broke lose. I fucked up at work big time and spent two anxious days trying to berate myself.

And, realized, instead of berating and wallowing in self-pity, I would be of better use if I apply myself to the solution. Hopefully, the situation can be handled. I am optimistic.

But, the realization that I missed looking at the bigger picture while lost in my useless daily contemplations was a serious and a much needed wakeup call.

In retrospect, life was never problem free. I was complacent to my own detriment. If I was living a practical life, I would be drowning in tasks to finish before the impending change I am hell bent on avoiding. As usual, I am pushing what is required to the last possible moment.

We love to live the life of complacency while the storm builds up, gathering force and speed, ready to hit and tear you down. Humans have a crazy power to shove things under the carpet, rug or blanket, take your pick, till it suits them and makes life easy. Change is scary.

The fascinating fact is our Brains have a lot of say in fighting our default behavior. Brains are wired in a certain thought pattern based on our experiences and we become comfortable with the general rhythm of life.

Now, if you want to fight the existing system which your brain has honed for you, you need to fight your own survival instinct. And, to do that you need a lot of energy. Yes, actual calories.

As I said, Change is Hard. The least I can do is binge eat into emotional coma while my brain gets scrambled again!!

Just Gossip Vol. 40 – 10 things to do before embracing New Year

Swathy · December 31, 2016 · 8 Comments

Republished from 1stJanuary, 2015

Good Morning Everyone! So, welcome to the last day of 2016. I thought this would be a good time to republish this post. Have a read and let me know what you think about it 🙂

In the spirit with the new year, I had been meaning to do a post tagged #dump10things since quite long. So, finally, here it is – list of 10 things I would like to get rid of at the verge of this transition from the old to new. Do check out my list and do not forget to share yours in the comments below!!

#1 – Old Grudges

High time to let go of the extra baggage with which we all have been burdening ourselves. If a thing can be solved, solve it. If not, just let it go.

#2 – Taking relationships and people for Granted

This is something we all do some or the other time, intentionally or unintentionally. No, that is not absolutely acceptable. I would hate it if someone would just take me for a ride and so would you so why do it to someone else, right?

#3 – Temper

Oh hello, my old friend. I do think it is time to let you go and a new friend, Patience, to welcome in my life. Short temper not only harms your relationships but also your health so beware!

#4 – Laziness

Well, I love a sedentary lifestyle but is it really that good for us all? Do you know it is one of the cardinal sins to be a sloth and not use yourself to the best of your ability. While I would not say slog it out, I would say not to lie around. But, I do love it so 😀

#5 – Procastination

This is a natural progression from laziness. So, next time you have a thing on your To Do list, do not keep on adding it at the bottom. In fact, finish the task which you are most likely to procrastinate first and you will feel good about it!

#6 – Ignoring yourself

A rule of thumb is that you can never take care of others unless you take care of yourself. So, follow the adage and prioritize yourself. Take 15 minutes off from the day and just pamper yourself. Go for a walk, meditate, head for the salon or simply sit with your thoughts.

#7 – Leading an Unhealthy Life

While laziness is more or less responsible for this point, I would also stress that bad daily routines and unhealthy habits does lead to a lot of laziness as well. You can see that it is a never ending cycle. So, break it now and start it slow!

#8 – Fear

Afraid of heights? Or, afraid of discovering more about yourself? Pick whichever fear is more closer to you and work on it. Travel, write, do whatever you have been thinking you want to do but have been hesitant about it. Nothing will happen unless you get your hands dirty. My boss used to say show me the dirt!

#9 – Negativity

Well, this is one thing which seeps your entire energy and spirit and kills you from inside. So, chuck this out first. Be optimistic and value your assets. In most of the situations, you are more likely to have nothing to lose. So, think about it whenever you are negative about anything.

#10 – Not Traveling

This one is close to my heart. I love to travel and I love to travel locally as opposed to touristy. So, yup, I would love to get a chance to go and travel the world. High on my list are Norway and Iceland. I am just dying to go there.

So, these are my list of 10 things which I would love to improve upon in this course of the new year and soon make changes for my and my family’s good. Now that you have read my list, do not forget to share yours in the comments below. Remember, I am waiting!!

Its Just Life Vol. 4 – Let us Uncomplicate!

Swathy · January 21, 2015 · 2 Comments

So, if you have read my blogging goals for the current year, you would already know that professional blogging has made my life pretty complicated!! I have lost the focus on blogging by becoming a full time blogger. The focus had shifted to making the blog self-sustainable. And, reading a whole lot about it became just too much for me!

It was like being bombarded by do this and do that and this would not work and that would not work. You know internet is a pretty negative place if you really do not know what you want!

This entire exercise made me lose interest in writing! And, that was BAD. You should really be selective about what information you consume. Let’s start!

1. Clear Your Mind

You really need to be selective about what you let sit in your mind. There is so much of everything happening around and you really can not help thinking about everything. So, chuck everything from your mind.

If you have ever worked in any company, you would know that quite a lot of people prefer freshers. No, not because of lesser salary but because of lesser experience. A mind with a clean slate can be moulded in anyway you want. Where as a mind with certain principles of its own will never react the way you want it to.

The same principle works here as well. The assumptions you make, the impressions on your mind, the thoughts you have, everything leaves your mind in a turmoil. And, when this gets too much, generally in the cases of a lot of emotional drama in your life, you tend to feel insane!

A good step to avoid such situations is to clear your mind. Stay away from the things which disturb you. And, if that is not possible, create situations which help you stay away.

For example, when staying at home became too much for me to bear, I started staying back longer in the office. I have always been a girl who loves to go home as early as possible but this step made my life simpler!

This is just an example but you get the idea so work on it!

2. Work on your Body!

As important as it is to keep your mind calm, it is equally important to keep your body fit. More exercise means more endorphins which are happiness hormones. So, you stay happy, irrespective of the situations! And, it builds your confidence and self-esteem. So, yes, work out or take it gradually – go for a walk daily!

3. Focus on what is important and discard everything else!

This is more or less a variant of #1. But, what I want to say here is that always prioritize what you want. Think of the larger picture, not of today but one year down the line then five years down the line and then about how you want your whole life to be. And, work towards that goal.

Remove the negative thoughts which hamper your ability and productivity. Remove all the drama which involves you. Avoid situations or simply walk out. Do what you think is best!! But, make sure you are not travelling in two boats at the same time. That will make your life worse. So, have one goal and travel only in one boat towards that goal.

For example, I want to build this blog. I did not want to work so I left my job. You bet everyday I listen so much from everyone and yes it is quite depressing sometimes. But, then, when I think about the blog, nothing else matters! Yes, there are other goals but my primary goal is blogging and I shall achieve other goals through this.

Watch out for every depressing thought.

Few days back, I received an email from one of the reader’s who asked me to write about emotional health. So, this is a trial from my side on the topic. I am trying to align the series to my moods so that it is easy for me to pen them down. Hope you like it!!

Now, I am feeling overwhelmed so let me just practice these three tips for the week and I shall get back to you with new ones sometime next week. And, do not forget to share what do you think of these new series? Looking forward to hearing from you!

Other posts you might have missed:
Blogging Series Vol. 19 – Blogging Goals for #2015!!
Just Gossip Vol. 25 – The Year 2013!
Its Just Life Vol. 3 – Not all things happen for the good!!